Now that I have my husband's support, it's much easier for me to see how exciting and joyous this baby will be for us.We hope my pregnancy will give the kids somewhere positive to focus their attention, too, and that they don't see their new sibling as an encroachment on their dad’s attention.
Emily Yoffe, aka Dear Prudence, is on weekly to chat live with readers. (Sign up here to get Dear Prudence delivered to your inbox each week. I'm also absolutely mortified about possibly discussing this with her.
I have no problem with her doing that, but it makes me uncomfortable that she does it while I'm in the room.
She hasn't shared his real name, unfortunately, so we are unable to alert anyone.
In the office, it is common that we throw the mom-to-be a shower, however we are all in agreement that we disagree with this relationship. A: She's going to have the baby whether or not you throw the shower, so forgoing a shower for her is not going to persuade her that she is making a terrible mistake.
Once the lights are out and all is quiet, you are in a zone of assuming each of you is drifting off to sleep, and if under the covers she indulges in some quiet stress relief to help bring on pleasant dreams, I think you should ignore it.
Instead of lying there anxiously listening for the sounds of self-gratification, just tell yourself your roommate tends to toss and turn before the delta waves hit.
You are not entitled to go through his memorabilia and edit it to suit your insecurities.
You don't say that he disappears for hours and you find him obsessively poring over photos of his exes, so I will assume you are not objecting to some style obsession with his past.
Just think of this as one of those "out of classroom" learning experiences admissions officers are always touting. UPDATE RE: Pregnancy After Unimaginable Tragedy: Thank you for your advice last week.
I told my husband about the pregnancy, and he's overjoyed.
Unless to accomplish her task your roommate brings out a screaming, high-decibel vibrator, talking about this with her, or a resident adviser, is going to just be mortifying for you.