Other People’s Love tops it up although some people’s ‘oil’ is of a low grade quality that may do a lot more damage to the tank in the long run… Whoever they are that are causing you pain, you do better.
When you start working through the beliefs in your head, you’ll see how much your own internal angst is limiting you.
Read this book and be changed for the better.” – JC Libiran, author and founder of Project: Courage Zone Business owners and human resource professionals, this book is also for you!
It felt like a slap in the face and I smarted from her words but they stuck in my head for a very long time and in the end, I came to recognise the significance and truth of her words once my pride had settled down.
I craved love, intensely sought out validation, and privately lived with a black cloud over my head while I outwardly smiled at everyone.
When I became ill with the immune system sarcoidosis in 2003, I was so distracted by the ‘guy with a girlfriend’ that even though I should have been focusing on my health, I was more interested on focusing on him as my only option! This is how I ended up in a number of half hearted relationships and yawning my way through many dates.
The tank will never be full if you haven’t put your own self-love in the tank, so no matter how much you try and get others to fill up the void, what it needs is the reserve of your self-love.
If you sell yourself short, at best you’ll be running on an almost empty tank, and at it’s worst, you’ll be running on empty.
I’d throw my energy into the limited capacity of a limited relationship.
It felt like a lot and that I was working for the relationship – I was running on the spot.
Every day I read stories in my email, read the comments, Facebook, and even general stories via my friends, acquaintances, and of course the media, and I feel deeply saddened that there are many women who are like how I have been, believing they have no options, or their option is someone who treats them ‘less than’.
It’s like we don’t believe in healthy relationships anymore and are desperate to fill up a void with somebody, anybody…just as long as they cater to our beliefs.
It suited me to think they’d leave – It meant that I was never really in it because I deep down expected them to go.