I’ve gotten a lot of one-on-one questions about this from BOTH MEN AND WOMEN and I figured it was time to write about it. As a daughter of God, he is working out your story beautifully, so bask in that.Before I write another line though, it’s important that I say a few things and get some things out of the way. This article is mainly for mature Christian single women. This is however, for Christian ladies who are ready for marriage but frustrated that they can’t find the right guy even though there seems to be options. I write this respectfully but I will write it as honestly as possible as a man and as someone who knows a thing or two about relationships.
Think through the Bible…all the great men that had relationships with God and who he used and blessed…usually didn’t have a clue about where they were going and (here is the even crazier part) even if they had a clue, their lives for a long time did not reflect that great place God said he was taking them. All the way from Abraham …going to a land he did not know; Joseph having a dream that people would bow down to him but became a slave and then a prisoner; David who was anointed to be King and then lived the next 15 years in the wilderness as a fugitive; Peter the great fisher of men who was barely able to catch fish.
These men would have had a rough time finding a wife today. Abraham calling sister Sarah aside after church and saying “Errrmmm Sarah you know I love you right? “Look baby…I really care about you and want to spend the rest of my life taking care of you…
Dependability, thriftiness, work ethic, time management, hard work, follow-through and so on.
One of the first things we learn about Ruth for example, was her work ethic. She knew how to pull her hair back, forget about her nails, roll up her sleeves and get on the grind.
That’s how you earn a man’s respect…when you can show him that what he HAS does not define who you are. Just because Ruth could get down and work, didn’t mean she couldn’t look pretty and tidy up (Ruth 3:3) 4.
Many ladies pre-qualify their leads: This is one of the most CRITICAL reasons.
But right now I wash dishes in Potiphar’s house and I’m a slave boy there” God’s men don’t “always” have a direction or know the details.
So stop looking for men who have it all figured out! Here is what you SHOULD be looking for: Men who can be LED by God.
(And I’m not just talking about finances here)They don’t want to put themselves out there at all.
They want the man to take ALL the risks…to be utterly convinced he wants to be with them before they open up about who they really are.
In essence, many Christian ladies say they have faith but they don’t. They want him to have his life utterly figured out…