When it is not, then things turn sour, and the relationship ends.
D., associate professor of psychology at California State University, San Bernardino how the rest of the relationship will go.
Many times an issue is brought up by attacking or blaming one’s partner, also known as criticism, and one of the killers of a relationship. Instead of saying, 'You always leave your dishes all over the place! ' try a more gentle approach, focusing on emotional reaction and a positive request.
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Partners should be especially sure that their values match before getting into marriage.
Although other differences can be accommodated and tolerated, a difference in values is particularly problematic if the goal is long-lasting love.
We can 'abandon' ourselves in many areas: emotional (judging or ignoring our feelings), financial (spending irresponsibly), organizational (being late or messy), physical (eating badly, not exercising), relational (creating conflict in a relationship), or spiritual (depending too much on your partner for love).
When you decide to learn to love yourself rather than continue to abandon yourself, you will discover how to create a loving relationship with your partner."— Margaret Paul, Ph.
Personal experience proves it too: From our eighth-grade romance to our most recent breakup drama, "love isn't easy" is a life lesson we know all too well.