AND ANOTHER UPDATE: I didn’t “find myself on a date” I realised during the date, with an attractive woman who was within my desired age range who happened to be younger than me and not a mom.It was my realization that we had nothing in common (yes we seemed to have a lot of spark on txt messages and via email) once we were sitting at a table together.Today, I think sex can get in the way of learning if you like the person.
(Red Flags, we like to call them.) As we navigate “dating” again, we quickly realise the rules are very different.
Our experience gives us some distinct advantages in terms of recognising what we don’t want.
And perhaps our unfinished wounding might keep us from starting the dating process again.
Don’t miss the exciting conclusion of this single dad’s journey: A Dad In Love, Again(I’ve got two kids and a full-time job, but I’d still like to find time to be with someone.)1. I will admit that getting back out there, for me, as a man, initially was about sex.
One thing I will tell a first date, “You can ask me anything. And while we are no longer a relationship we went through the whole process, getting to know each other breaking up, without any drama. And I usually share this concept on the first date. Maybe this explains a lack of second dates.) Here it is. The beauty of that is feelings include the ability to fully love.
So when opportunity arrises I look forward to being 100% present with my feelings. I feel like we connected and have the same beliefs and common interests. In this post I’m going to explain what I call, “Newly Divorced Man Syndrome – I hope you haven’t run into this but if you have, this will help you figure out what happened. He took the initiative and we started chatting/texting immediately.Feelings are the key to compatibility, in my opinion.I look forward to having another opportunity to learn about myself “in relationship” at some point. But I believe by having my priorities clear and articulated I can do a better job of finding and sorting through the process of finding that NEXT RELATIONSHIP. UPDATE: Responding to a comment on another site about this post, I’d like to share a few more observations. Here are several points where I think we need more discussion.1. Yes, I selected these potential dates and knew their age, and also that they had not ever had children.We both right off the bat explained to each other our likes and dislikes and had mutual feelings.. After a week of talking he begged me everyday to meet him but because our work schedules clash and the distance, we had a hard time planning a date.