She's real." Weird — last I checked, porn stars : "Girls, don't ever fool yourself by thinking you have to fit a certain mold to be loved and appreciated.
I have experienced sexual assault and trauma in my life.
A lot of fat women have -- the ACE scores study suggest that at least some cases of obesity are biologically related to childhood trauma -- but I don't need you to psychoanalyze me, to explain to me why I'm fat, or to try and "fix" me somehow. I got over guys who wanted to sleep with me but weren't willing to be seen in public with me a long time ago.
"There's nothing sexier to me than a woman who is both curvy and confident," he writes, blissfully unaware that he is still telling women how to look and feel."Guys, rethink what society has told you that you should desire," he commands.
"A real woman is not a porn star or a bikini mannequin or a movie character.
It may come off as cruel but ask any guy and they’ll often tell you their idea of a dream date is someone who looks like their favorite model or celebrity.
However, there are a number of reasons why dating a fat girl has its benefits.
(For anyone skeptical of that word, please know that I use it as a neutral adjective and never a pejorative and that using the term "curvy" as a substitute is substantially more harmful.) And then there are the self-congratulatory men.
On dates, straight men who genuinely believe they are making the world a better place by dating a human being above a size eight have said things to me such as, "I like a girl with meat on her bones" or, less originally, "real women have curves," then proceeded to body-shame thin women as a rule, which is actually a pretty goddamn unattractive — not to mention unproductive — thing to do.
I don't mind if you tend to date fat girls, or really even if you get some specific pleasure from being with a fat woman -- but I don't need that to be the first thing you tell me about yourself. " It's announced as if it's supposed to reassure me that they aren't going to take one look at me naked and run, I think? Or maybe it's meant to suggest some kink; like to let me know that he wants to feed me cakes and watch me weigh myself? If you care more about my weight than I do, we're going to have a problem. "You're not the kind of lazy, stupid, disgusting, [insert sizeist insult here] slob who I expect fat people to be," is not a compliment.
Dudes tend to assume that I haven't dated a lot in my life -- or the opposite, that I'm always up for casual sex because I'm desperate for attention.
My personal favorite "Curve Lover" line: "Don't worry, you don't have to eat salad around me," as though I am only pretending to like kale because Kevin the PR Executive is sitting across the table — as though all attitudes surrounding bodies and all decisions about food are secretly about rather than the owner of the body or the consumer of said food.