This leads to distancing, constant doubts, and fear of abandonment that comes with assuming people can’t be trusted or trusting too soon.
To keep you at bay because of an awful mistake made by another woman 16 years ago, would effectively mean the end of your relationship. The woman who let me in, despite her trust issues, became my wife. Which is just a longwinded way of saying: do your best, but it’s not really up to you.
Not the worst problem in the world by any means, but not great.
It has a history of effecting my personal life, though.
I tend to keep my walls up for too long and then let them come crashing down entirely all at once instead of gradually.
You need to be willing to wipe the slate clean every time you get involved with someone new.
This doesn’t mean you need to trust them completely right off the bat; that can be reckless.
One thing I noticed about the trustworthy people: they are willing to do whatever it takes to earn your trust.
Don’t let your past spoil your future Okay, so maybe the people in your past were completely untrustworthy.
Unfortunately, his ex-wife cheated on him, and married her lover the day after their divorce was final.
I just wanted to know, in a general way, what does it take for a man to get over being cheated on by an ex-wife, particularly if it has been many years now, and he still seems to be putting up walls?
I have been dating a guy I met online for about 3 months now. My boyfriend has many good qualities, and I really like him a lot (I’m starting to love him).