Most of the time it didn’t work, but when it did, it was enough to keep us going for the next hundred last ditch efforts.I thought a lot about this while driving the 400 miles to my boyfriend’s school in Northern California.
For offbeat het couples, I think the most common troublesome expectations are issues of "normative" roles.
These could be assumptions about gender roles ("Now she'll cook, and I'll work overtime!
In marriage as in wedding planning, you can't doze off at the wheel, or you may wake up and realize you're living someone else's life.
I have no idea what marriage means to you and your partner, but when I see couples who've spent years living happily together as partners suddenly fall apart as spouses, I usually figure they had very different expectations about what marriage would mean to their relationship.
My truth is that I will never find anybody as good, and I shouldn’t even bother. He is a great person, but as far as relationships go, this one isn’t healthy or sustainable anymore.
And if I don’t want to be alone forever, I’m going to have to face the scary world and put myself out there at some point.Is it about building a home together or is it about traveling the world together?Is it about feeling so confident in your commitment that you feel ok about going to grad school on opposite coasts?Is it about supporting each other in your separate endeavors without insecurity?Is it about more kinky sex or more gentle couch snuggles after work?when people are together for ages, get married and then split. -Jan It's absolutely not uncommon at all: longtime partners who are together for years decide to get married, and then almost immediately decide to get divorced. For some people, that expectation might be, "Absolutely nothing will change, other than that we'll be wearing rings and will have had a big party." For other people, the expectation might be, "will change.