And being a metalhead meant she liked all this other awesome stuff, too – archaeology, swordfighting, horror films, steak and chips – and we just clicked.
Everything just clicked.” But, I know a lot of guys (and girls) dating non-metalheads who find it works perfectly, because they share other things in their lives – medieval history, charity work, philosophies, industrial music – that mean more to them as a couple than metal.
I know it’s harder for guys in the metalhead dating game, because while some research suggests an equal number of men and women listen to metal, men are predominantly the ones who go to shows, collect the albums, and obsess over the music.
I am the person he needed to show him he can do more with his life than he ever imagined.
And he is the person who will stick up for me and protect me when I can’t do this for myself.
Many of my guy friends love going out to gigs with their friends as an excuse to hang out once a month, and have a big blokes night out.
Others find metal cathartic, a way to meditate and let go of frustrations, a kind of inner peace they don’t want to share with someone else.
As time went on, we just spent less and less time together as my interests went in one direction and his in another.
This wasn’t just about the music, but it was a big part of it.Your girlfriend obviously loves music too, and she probably feels the same way about her indie music. Feel free to call it “indie shit” here, though, because I 100% agree.You shouldn’t give up on your girl because she doesn’t like metal, but you should call it quits if she actually doesn’t get , and what you stand for.Trust me, she’s a girl, she will think this is the most amazing gift ever.Let her make a mix tape for you, full of indie shit, and see if you can When you hear a song out of context, and you’re not listening, you are bound to think its shit.Songs that got you through the hard times, and celebrate the man you are now and the man you hope to be.