About Zach Middleton Culture Writer Zach Middleton writes about food and drinks, books, movies, and oddities.
Originally from Central Oregon, he now writes out of the University Park neighborhood in North Portland.
This seemed to bring out a flood of inner fears and insecurities about dating in a small city, and these feelings are legitimate, but worth getting past.
Both he and she gave me a high-five as they sat down at a nearby table.
My date, who is “from away,” was mystified to hear that the guy was a recent ex-boyfriend of mine and the girl was the one he dated directly after me.
It’s going to be weird and awkward, but hey, what isn’t on a first date? That being said, if you’ve been online for a few weeks and haven’t found your soulmate, don’t stop. I’ll get into this in future episodes of THE SEX FILES (cue mysterious opening music). I have met amazing friends and lovers and boyfriends online. But if you’re recently out of a relationship, there is a good chance that the news of your drunken tongue-lock will make it back to your ex like a middle school game of telephone.
There is nothing more attractive than a person who isn’t paralyzed by jealousy. I can’t tell you how often I hear people say that they’re afraid of online dating or posting a photo to their profile because they are embarrassed that people will see them and know they are single. And this is one of those truths that can cause real-life heartbreak.
And as the book progresses, it becomes clear that what's causing Grover's illness may not be physical—or even quite emotional or spiritual.
It's seems as systemic as Cushing's, something almost inherent to the world itself.
In NYC, San Fran, or LA you can easily hide behind knowing that a questionable first date with a cougar you met on Plentyof Fish will never be seen by friends, and you can completely avoid an ex simply by moving to a new neighborhood or keeping a wide berth from their fave locales. There are three harsh realities that keep many people from fully committing to dating in Maine.
And they are facts people cling to like life preservers as excuses for being alone forever.
Although books that list dating “rules” tell you NEVER to talk about an ex on a first date, if you know each other’s exes, that advice doesn’t work here. If people know you are single, they are more likely to ask you out, or hook you up with a friend. It could have been you, but you were waiting for him to message you. This truth is a tougher pill to swallow because there are so many emotions involved.