Just remember that the worst result is for him not to return those feelings. READ MORE: Take the fear out of initiating by learning how to write the perfect first message On a similar note, many single women use their inactivity as a shield that can easily be misinterpreted as disinterest.
(Obviously smile, ladies; a quick .012 second half-smirk will not cut it!
) If you’ve been talking to a man in a friendly context but are interested in taking it further and sensed he may feel the same way, get a little flirtatious and see how he responds.
Or what if you had mentioned to the endless-texter a cool new hiking spot you’ve discovered?
The worst he could have said is no (Are you sensing a theme here? In either case, both could be passed off as you simply being friendly and trying to make a connection with someone, no defence mechanism included.
If you feel confident that he’s interested or are willing to take that risk, by all means let him know you’re interested.
Or at the very least, let on your interest to a mutual friend who can discreetly pass along the word.READ MORE: Need help mastering those flirting skills? The fear that simply initiating interest will immediately give the man the upper hand in the relationship and put your delicate feelings in his hands is a strong and often valid one.There are lots of men out there who get some kind of power trip off having control in a relationship and abusing that power, and perhaps some of you developed this fear because of a particularly scarring experience.In order to help you unpack some of the preconceived notions and deep-seated fears that led you to your wallflower status, here are some common reasons women hold back – and how you can adjust to become a more proactive dater who gets men to pursue you WHILE staying in your feminine role.Whether it’s something our mums advised us growing up or the fact that women in movies who ask out guys are always depicted as outgoing, overbearing and aggressive, we women have turned into shrinking violets for fear of coming across as too masculine.But much like any other part of life – be it work, a favourite activity of yours, or moving to a new city – the greatest rewards often come with some initial risk.